Friday, February 14, 2014

you might be offended by this post. you might not. either way, i truly mean well.

Valentine's Day.

the words alone can make one gag or blush.
vomit or squeal.
cry or giggle.

the holiday means so many different things to different people...or maybe it means nothing at all.

and i think just about any holiday can have the same affect on people, but the stereotypical expectation of this particular holiday brings expectations to a whole other level. just as a teenage boy goes into complete hysteria in his math class, a thirty-five year old man panics amidst his work deadlines and family responsibilites. both want to meet the expectations of their significant other but the precise thought of not meeting it...he'd rather be caught dead on the side of the road.

or not.

because then there are those couples who pretend the holiday means nothing to them, so they don't plan anything. not together, nor for the other person...yet secretly, hopefully, maybe the other person will surprise the other. just maybe.

or not.

and then there are thoooose couples who go so over the top (giant teddy bear? humongous heart box of chocolate? singing telegram of Nsync's God must have spent a little more time on you? do people even do singing telegrams anymore?) that even people who have a healthy appreciation for the holiday start tasting vomit in their mouths because it's just oh, just waaaay to much. but hey, each to their own, ya know?

and then the single people.

some of you could give a rat's butt about the holiday. you are liberated. you can go out with your girlfriends - or maybe guy friends - without feeling any stress on whether or not a bouquet of red roses will be delivered to your office. or if he made reservations at your favorite italian restaurant before they ran out, or maybe you'll just go home, surrounded by your cats and curl up in a cozy blanket, pour yourself a cup of tea and disappear into your most recent book.

but what about those of you single people that do care? those who has a romantic side and can't help but imagine a knight in shining hour, rescuing you in this utter day of despair? who sweeps you off of your feet, the very second that you were about to pull your hair out as your rival co-worker goes on and on again about what her boyfriend has planned for her that evening?

oh, friend. you are the one i actually think of on this holiday.

the other couples, the liberated singles, they can take care of themselves just fine. but you, i want to hug you and i want to tell you that it's going to be okay. you will be okay. valentine's day is just another holiday. the calendar days will continue onto the 15th, then the 16th and then the 17th and the world will continue to spin on it's axis.

and so if valentine's day is about love then focus on those relationships that you do have. appreciate those people. show them love and celebrate them. let them love you. and stop feeling sorry for yourself. life is way too short for that. plus no one likes somebody who throws their own pity-party.

and know this: the pressure is off for you.

no having to wonder if valentine day's plans will be perfect.
or the stress of picking out the perfect outfit.
or eating way too much chocolate.
or worrying which dish you'll order 'cause you might bloat.
or ordering the pesto pasta and getting annoying pieces of green in between your teeth.

get dressed up in heart printed tights because you want to.
buy yourself flowers and a box of chocolate - who says you can't?
rent Valentine's Day and laugh your socks off at the highs and joys of cheesy love.
eat pesto pasta without having someone pick out that you annoying pieces of green in between your teeth.

and why do i say all this? because there may have been one or two valentine's day where i felt this way in my younger years and it would have been nice to hear this. so maybe you needed to hear this. maybe you didn't. but really...

it's all going to be okay. 

so while the rest of the world is trying to figure out #Valentinesdayproblems, you do not. so do me a favor. sit back and relax. we will do all the stressing out - including picking out all the green pieces from our teeth.

much love.
{happy friday, friend.}


  1. I think I shall get some pesto pasta tonight and enjoy some Netflix. ;)

  2. Needed to hear this today Ilene! Thanks, hope you have a lovely day!

  3. Personally, I love Valentine's Day! No matter if I'm single or in a relationship. I just like to show people I love how much I care! This year, my bf and I just hung out at home. But it has been so much fun because I love every minute with him! :) Happy Valentine's Day!

    xo Megan, Lush to Blush

  4. loved this post. thanks for sharing friend. you have such a sweet heart!

  5. Wow, this was an amazing post. I definitely have my highs and lows when it comes to being single, and while this past Valentine's Day wasn't bad for me, there have been bad ones in the past and it's these kinds of posts that remind me of the relationships I DO have and need to deepen and the relationship I have with God who is the best valentine of all. :) Love your heart and your amazing way with words!

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